To attain to divine union, all the troubles God sends us are required. By means of these, He wipes out all our lower inclinations. Hence, all the insults, injuries, contempt, infirmities, abandonment by relatives and friends, embarrassments, temptations of the devil and other events distasteful to our human nature – all are extremely necessary so that we will fight until we have extinguished our evil inclinations. Until our troubles no longer seem bitter but rather, sweet for love of God, we will never reach divine union.
– St. Catherine of Genoa
"That this is so," says the same Saint, "I know by experience. When Divine Love sees how tightly we cling to what we have chosen to love, because to us it appears beautiful, good and right, and blinded by our self-love, we will not hear a word to the contrary, He takes away everything to which we have given our heart. Hence we reach the point of not knowing what to do with ourselves, since we have been torn from those things in which we took delight and are experiencing only suffering and confusion. And not knowing why God permits these things, which seem unreasonable, we become irritated and go about moaning and trying our best to find relief from so much anxiety. When Divine Love has kept the soul in this state of suspense for some time, almost despairing and now annoyed by all that it formerly loved, He suddenly reveals Himself, His divine countenance resplendent and lovable to behold."
St. Elizabeth, daughter of the King of Hungary, was widowed while still young. Her property and money were taken from her, she was put out of her own home, abandoned by everyone and made to suffer from slander, affronts and insults. All this she suffered very patiently for the love of God. He in turn amply rewarded her for everything with wondrous spiritual gifts.